My Struggle with Accepting Help
The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others. -Albert Schweitzer
One of the major themes in my book is asking for help or being open to receiving it when offered. I am really good at writing about it but when it comes down to it, I struggle with receiving it.
Not being able to walk has been a major challenge especially when trying to care for Dorian. He has been such a good sherpa and keeping a positive attitude through this major disruption to our lives.
One morning, when I asked him if he could go find something for breakfast because I just didn't have the energy to make my way downstairs, he put his hands in the air and exclaimed, "But I don't even know how to cook!" I knew I needed to get to the store so that he would have some grab n go options that didn't require me cooking him bacon and eggs every morning.
I had friends offer to pick up groceries for me but I really struggled to allow the help. I have no problems asking for help when it's to something that I don't know how to do like fix a flat tire or search engine optimization but getting groceries- seriously I should be able to figure this out. And I did! This morning Dorian was able to go downstairs and grab himself a bagel for breakfast.
I appreciated the offers for assistance and if I couldn't figure it out, I was going to accept it but I needed to try first. I'm stubborn that way.
Takeaway: Even if you don't accept the help, make sure to express gratitude for the offer. Receiving help can make some (read ME) uncomfortable so my advice isn't to offer but JUST DO IT, whether it's bringing them a glass of water or chocolate because seriously who doesn't need chocolate?!