The Struggle I Have with Kid-Free Time
Balance activity with serenity, wealth and simplicity, persistence with innovation, community with solitude, familiarity with adventure, constancy with change, leading with following. -Jonathan Lockwood Huie
During the hour drive back to Bangor after dropping my son off with his dad for the weekend, I think about all the possibilities with my newfound freedom. I could go out for drinks, shop, binge on netflix, clean and organize my life, sleep or get back to work. It is a struggle I have every other weekend. I want to make the most of those precious kid-free hours that I dream about having when he is resisting going to sleep.
Most of the time work gets a good portion of “free time” because I love to work. It inspires confidence in me to see progress towards the goals I have set. It is also when this blog post was written.
I know if I didn’t make a conscious effort, I could spend all of my time at work and then would be burned out come Sunday. So to counteract that, I reach out to friends and schedule time together.
In theory, I could try to date and have a few times but on my list of priorities, it just isn’t high enough and I am OK with that! I know that in the future, I can always readjust how I allocate my time but for right now, dating and all that time that goes along with it didn’t make the cut.
Takeaways: Don’t look at how other people are spending their weekend. Focus on you and what you need to feel recharged! There is no right or wrong way to spend your time. If you need to spend a hour crying because although your child has almost put you over the edge a million times in the past week, you still miss him like crazy! Do it then put yourself back together and find something that bring you relaxation and happiness!